Balance Sheet Happens
So I was feeling that feeling of being a waste of life and useless and isolated while recovering from what they said was a “minor” surgical procedure so I ate a bunch of french fries and then I said to the Universe, “Please help me be of service.”
What happened was a bunch of women showed up in my life - who all like me were having a human experience with minds, responsibilities, bodies, relationships that were in some ways sub-fabulous. And what attracted me to these particular women, and perhaps them to me, at this time, was that they were, in their way, having acutely un-fabulous moments for one reason or another, and I actually at this moment even with everything, for whatever reason, am having a good run of almost-fabulousness. Plus some time/capacity due to the recovering thing.
So these ladies and I got to talking. And looking at the specifics of their situations, I could see the specifics of my situation, and a lot of it is this balance thing, which I never really valued or wanted, but now that I’m enjoying it is definitely like OMG everyone should get to feel this way, or more this way, more often.
So that feels really different from how it’s been for me because I’ve mostly been chasing ease and now I’m mostly experiencing ease. So what I’ve learned is there is a recipe which is replicable I’m pretty sure and obviously some people are dealt a better hand than others but if you’ve got the time to be reading this then probably your hand has at least a couple of decent cards, really. So, here’s the recipe:
Take action to ensure personal capacity exceeds demands over time.
Remove blocks to increasing capacity and reducing demands.
That’s the deal. What’s my capacity? What’s on my plate? What am I willing to do to increase my capacity? What am I willing to let go of to decrease the demands on myself? Is there a less extreme version of what I’m contemplating that I’m willing to give a whirl? What’s the smallest adjustment I could make? Is this entire line of questioning pissing me off so much I want to check out? Will that help? Who do I trust to help me get creative with sorting this out? Am I willing to ask someone for help?
So that’s the kind of stuff that when I’ve been stuck has been helpful to me, after I’ve exhausted the french fry method which I keep hoping will work, but consistently only offers temporary relief. I’m gonna keep going.
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P.S. Invitation to share your capacity-increasing activities and demand-reducing strategies — what have you been able to let go of or get help with? Or are considering ....
