Why???

Ax has taken to asking “Why?” in response to almost every request, particularly those that relate to bedtime.  As in, “Ax it’s time to go to bed.”

“Why?”

“Because it’s a school night.”

“Why?”

“Because bodies need rest to perform well.”

“Why?”

“Because that’s how we are designed.”

“Why?”

And eventually, as I keep trying to answer, while gently moving him towards bed, and not just shout, “Get your butt in bed now!” which would be not conscious parenting, eventually things get either silly/absurd or, since I’m tired, more usually, I get to “I don’t know.”

I don’t know why some things are what they are.  But I know that they are.  I don’t know why if I do xyz I feel better than if I do abc, and then sometimes it’s the reverse.  I don’t always know which one is gonna be better on any given day.

And when I am doubtful or unsure, or afraid, I’ve been taught to pause, to take no action, and to tap into a deeper place of knowing that I can access for free, anytime.  But I have to think about it. 

And then I have to — I get to — respect the answer that comes from there. 

And I’ve learned that these truer answers to the big and small questions of how to live each moment of the day most comfortably and effectively are worth following.  Even when it’s not what I want to do for short term pleasure or pain avoidance.  I’ve learned that the cumulative effect of these choices, day after day, builds a life beyond my wildest dreams.  So far it’s working.  I’m gonna keep going. 

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Sascha Liebowitz