Weekly Personal Training Splurge

I was talking to my friend Madeline the other day and she was telling me that she and her hubby James are going through a rough patch and it feels like they might not even get through it and she’s upset. She’s angry, she’s sad. It wasn’t supposed to be like this. It’s not supposed to be this hard. They love each other so much but they just keep getting into conflicts and she doesn’t want to fight in front of the kids and she can’t take it anymore so she feels like maybe the only solution is to get divorced.

I have been there. Or, I should say, we have been there, because, as Rob Base and DJ E-Z Rock said, “It takes two to make a thing go right / It takes two to make it outta sight / Hit it.” And what Mike and I did, not right away but eventually, thank goodness, is we hit it. We hit it hard. Meaning we re-committed to being committed to each other and to having a wonderful relationship and to doing the work that we needed to do to make it happen day by day, every day.

And we keep doing it even though our particular rough patch is quite distant in the rear view mirror. I actually can’t even see it, but I know it’s there. And hey, even though it’s all lovey and rainbows right now stuff comes up. We have stuff. Everyone has stuff. And so we do maintenance. We do weekly couples therapy to keep our relationship tight, the way people who are already physically fit do weekend warrior boot camp to stay fit or to get in even better shape.

It’s our fun. It’s our splurge, and for us it’s much better value than a hotel getaway or fancy dinner because it gives us what we want way more than those things, which is a great time together, the vast majority of the time, in our normal daily life, and a way to authentically recover relatively quickly when we do have conflicts. It’s a great deal for us. This weekend is our twelve-year wedding anniversary and I feel like we are just getting started. I’m gonna keep going.